2 Steps Forward, 1 Backů Master the Dance of Change
When you start pursuing a dream, or making a change, most people expect that they'll progress smoothly one step after another. After they take a few steps, and find that they've hit an obstacle or had a setback, they get discouraged. They think, "It wasn't supposed to happen this way. It should have been a clear path to success."
But change doesn't happen that easily. It generally happens with 2 steps forward and 1 back. You build up momentum, and then you trip or bump into a wall. You may even have to take a couple of steps back to catch your balance. For instance, when you're on a diet to reduce weight, you don't consistently lose the same amount every week. There are some weeks when you might not see the number on the scale go down at all. It's also true in business. Your business will initially grow, then you'll stall, and your finances will dip. It's all part of the process of change.
It can be frustrating and discouraging. You can even feel anger or guilt, feeling like you must have done something wrong. These emotions can be more damaging than the setback. Your negative emotions about it can delay or hinder forward movement because you're focusing on the block. This can lead to getting caught in a feedback loop and going nowhere.
Instead of re-focusing on your vision, you're critical of yourself, give up, or upset that your momentum faltered. It's like staring at an obstacle when you're driving, rather than at where you want to go. You'll naturally aim for the barrier every time. And because your energy is directed at the block, you'll create more problems. It's just the way the mind works. Your actions follow your attention what you're focused on.
The only way out of the loop is to let go of the self-castigation and shift your attention back to your goal. Change rarely happens in a straight line. It takes a zing sag course. By understanding that is normal, you let go of unrealistic expectations of yourself and the situation. You're human. When you get stressed, tired, or distracted, you lose sight of your vision. It's natural to then step back into what's familiar, into your comfort zone.
There is a purpose to this process of change. It's actually to help you make better progress. And when you realize this, you can master the dance and put the lessons to good use. Here are some of the opportunities that 2 steps forward, and 1 back, can offer you:
Instead of immediately thinking that things are going wrong, realize that it may be that things are going right. That's the gift of the setback. It allows you to take a step back and get a better perspective of your path and vision.
It takes a lot of practice to master this mindset dance. You have to shift your attention from focusing on what's wrong, to what it's helping you do. When you're able to achieve that, you make much faster progress.
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As a speaker, personal and professional development coach, and hypnotherapist, Linda-Ann Stewart helps business and professional women who feel stuck, immobilized and overwhelmed to focus, prioritize and break through so they build more business and create a consistent income. Sign up for her FREE guide, "Take Control of Your Day," at www.Linda-AnnStewart.com/guide-takecontrol.html.You can contact her at LAS@Linda-AnnStewart.com or 928-600-0452.
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