Live in Expectancy of the Best
by Linda-Ann Stewart
Whether positive or negative, your attitude impacts your outcome. Your mindset affects how you filter the world around you, and as a result, determines how you respond to situations. When you expect the worst, your behavior makes that belief a self-fulfilling prophecy. Expecting the best can do the same. And isn't that a better way to live?
If you expect the worst, you're braced against that possibility. Your mind rehearses how to deal with a crisis, what you're going to do in the worst case scenario, and how you might avoid it. This means that all your mental resources are tied up with dealing with difficult situations that might never happen. You aren't left with many mental resources for moving forward.
However, if you expect the best, then your subconscious mind searches for opportunities to fulfill that belief. Your subconscious mind is a problem solver. When you set your intention to derive the best from a situation, then your subconscious mind seeks opportunities to create that reality for you.
How to Create the Best Result
Life brings all sorts of experiences your way, positive and negative. You can always improve your outcomes through altering your perspective. There will be times when you're working on a goal, or "shift happens" and your results don't live up to your hopes. When that's the case, use these tactics to extract the best possible outcome.
Be aware of the negative, but don't focus on it. This doesn't mean that you ignore or deny the possibility for difficulties. You just don't focus on them, or rehearse them. In "Psycho-Cybernetics," author Maxwell Maltz uses the analogy of golf to be aware of negatives. A golfer needs to recognize where the sand and water traps are, but not dwell on them. Instead, the golfer puts their attention on where they want the ball to land. Notice the negatives, and make preparations to avoid them. Have a "Plan B," if necessary. Then shift your attention to what you want to create and put your energy there.
Flip your attitude. If something untoward does happen, instead of giving up or getting discouraged, flip it to be more positive. This way you take charge of your response and it gives you more power to deal with the situation. Ask yourself, "What can I learn from this?" or, "How can I make something beneficial out of this?" This instructs your subconscious mind to find a way to extract something good from a disappointing circumstance.
Don't take it personally. When someone hurts or offends you, instead of taking it personally, realize it's probably not about you. They have their own issues that they're taking out on you. It's likely they're defending themselves against a perceived threat, which is probably from their past. It doesn't mean you excuse their behavior, but you can seek to understand their motives. Ask yourself, "What's their agenda?" or "What are they trying to achieve?" That can give you valuable information on how to positively respond to the situation.
Achieving a goal. When you're working on a goal, don't just focus on the end result. This gives your subconscious mind a direction to follow, which helps you take steps towards it. For an even greater outcome, open your mind to the possibility of something even better happening than what you can currently conceive of. Not only does this give your subconscious mind permission to find other paths to accomplish your goal, but it instructs your inner mind to "achieve this or something better."
Living in the Possibilities
When you live in the possibility of your best case scenario occurring, you instruct your subconscious mind to put its resources to work to that end. You may not have the information to imagine what the best outcome could be. You can only provide your subconscious mind the image of what you can consciously conceive of at the present time.
There may be a greater outcome than you can imagine. Opening your mind to the possibility of something better means that your subconscious can override outdated, limiting beliefs. And when you choose to live in an attitude of expecting the best from every situation, you create a life of joy, abundance and success.
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As a focus coach, hypnotherapist, and speaker, Linda-Ann Stewart motivates women to focus and transform their business through deliberate actions that break through distraction and overwhelm to greater success, freedom, wellbeing and prosperity. Watch her FREE training video on Set Your Course to Success: 4 steps to strategically achieve your goals with confidence and ease. Register for the video and accompanying action planning guide at www.SetYourCourseGuide.com. You can contact her at LAS@Linda-AnnStewart.com or 928-600-0452.