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4 Ways to Manage Your Stress
by Linda-Ann Stewart
When a stressful situation arises, your brain perceives it to be a threat. As a result, your mind instructs your body to react to the circumstance and keep you safe. Any change to your routine or situation is also considered stressful, even if it's beneficial, like a promotion. And it doesn't matter if the danger is mental or physical, real or imagined. Your mind can't distinguish between them, and signals your body to prepare for a fight or flight.
For instance, your boss might call you into his office, and you're dreading a confrontation. You feel tense and worry about what it could be about. Instead of being angry, he wants to praise your work on a report. Your stress was caused by your imagination. If the cause of stress isn't addressed and relieved, that pressure can escalate to a feeling of free floating anxiety and depression.
How You Deal with Stress
When you're stressed, all of your mental resources focus on handling the crisis. You feel like you have no control. To cope, your attention narrows to what's right in front of you and you can't think straight or be creative. Instead, you act reflexively, as you have in the past, whether it was helpful or not. And you remain in this habitual state until the stressful situation passes.
Although you may not be able to control outer circumstances, you can control your reactions. By changing the way you respond to stress, your results change. When you feel in control, you make better decisions and can innovate to solve problems. Taking charge of your actions is vital to your health and well-being.
How You Can Gain Control
Here are some ways you can manage stress, rather than letting it manage you.
1. Delay your reaction. Remember, as a child, you were told to count to 10 when you were angry? There is a valid reason for this. When you pause for 10 seconds, it gives your conscious mind time to assert itself. That allows it to move to a more rational position and lets you recognize the consequences of losing your temper. You also have more access to other solutions. To give yourself time, take a walk, go into another room, or do something to take your mind off of it temporarily.
2. Be mindful. Instead of getting swept along by your anxiety, focus on the present. Ask yourself, "What can I control in this moment?" You may not be able to control the environment, the situation, or other people, but you have authority over other things in your life. For example, you can do something nice for yourself or others, remember all the things you're grateful for, or read something inspirational.
3. Take small steps. Instead of getting overwhelmed, do one tiny thing, like wash the dishes. Then do another. Take one tiny aspect of what's stressing you, and deal with it. For instance, if you're concerned about finances, balance your checkbook. When you take action on a single thing at a time, you're able to calm down your nervous system.
4. Use self-talk. Talk yourself through the problem. When you have an internal (or out loud) conversation with yourself, it allows you to be clearer about the issue. You're able to organize your thoughts and evaluate what your options might be. Also, you've shifted your attention from feeling powerless to seeking a way through the stress. This engages your problem solving partner, your subconscious mind.
Feeling in control is your first step to reducing stress and moving towards a beneficial outcome. As you take charge, you have more power to change your habits and behaviors so you create the life you want.
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As a focus coach, hypnotherapist, and speaker, Linda-Ann Stewart motivates women to focus and transform their business through deliberate actions that break through distraction and overwhelm to greater success, freedom, wellbeing and prosperity. Watch her FREE training video on Set Your Course to Success: 4 steps to strategically achieve your goals with confidence and ease. Register for the video and accompanying action planning guide at www.SetYourCourseGuide.com. You can contact her at LAS@Linda-AnnStewart.com or 928-600-0452.
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