You Can Choose Your Beliefs
When Sandy was a small child, she and her younger brother were playing in the same room. She was playing quietly with a doll, and he was pounding his truck with a rock. Her mother yelled at them to stop it, saying that they were "bad" and "destructive." She went on to rant that they'd never receive anything good because they wouldn't take care of it. Because of this episode, Sandy grew up believing that she didn't deserve anything of value.
This belief had created a filter in Sandy's life. Whenever she had an opportunity to improve her life or have something of importance, she sabotaged it. One time, she lost a precious necklace soon after she received it. Another time, after getting a promotion, she forgot a vital deadline and was demoted as a result. Her subconscious made her belief that she couldn't be trusted into a reality.
One day, as she was relating the memory to a friend, she realized that her mother hadn't been speaking to her. Suddenly, she recognized that her mother had been addressing her brother. Reassessing the situation from an adult perspective, Sandy understood her mother had been frustrated that her brother had destroyed every toy he'd gotten. Sandy's entire belief system shifted, and she felt a surge of self-worth.
Although Sandy didn't consciously choose the belief that she wasn't worthy of anything good, it was one that she'd accepted before she was old enough to know better? Some of your beliefs are from single experiences that deeply impressed you, like Sandy's. Others are hand-me-downs from your family or friends when you were too young to decide whether they were valid or not.
For instance, you may have been a graceful dancer, but a jealous sibling or classmate told you that you were a klutz. If you accepted the judgment, from that point on you had a hard time walking without tripping over a blade of grass.
Or maybe you had a label pinned to you. Were you a strong minded child that refused to blindly follow instructions? If so, you may have been labeled a "troublemaker" by teachers and parents. And from that point on, you put on that persona and causing trouble became your hobby.
You filter your world through your beliefs. They affect your decisions, behaviors, reactions, and actions. They also influence how you respond to people and situations and how others respond to you. Not only that, your subconscious mind makes sure that you confirm your beliefs. This is why Sandy lost the necklace, the dancer became clumsy, and the stubborn child became a troublemaker.
But a belief isn't set in stone. For instance, the incident with Sandy's brother didn't affect him at all. He became a truck driver with an impeccable record. A situation doesn't create a belief. Your belief is simply an interpretation of events and your comprehension could be incorrect, as Sandy's was. You may not have all the facts or information, just as Sandy didn't. Your judgment is also affected by other beliefs and perceptions you have. Two different people would interpret the situation in very different ways, depending on their own experiences, perceptions and beliefs.
You can choose what to believe. If a belief isn't working for you, then you can change it. Beliefs are created by what you focus on and accept as a reality. If you focus on a feeling of worthlessness, then that's what you'll believe. However, if you consciously recognize your true worth, and focus on that, you'll start to feel deserving.
When you focus on the idea that life is a struggle, then you'll only notice conditions that verify your belief. Choosing to believe that life can be easy and harmonious will switch your filter, and instruct your subconscious to find ways for life to flow smoother.
Are your beliefs giving you the life you want or taking you where you want to go? If not, what do you need to believe to take you there? When the old belief surfaces, substitute the new one. It may feel threatening at first because you're changing a long standing habit. But the sky won't fall if you do.
After the old belief filter disappeared from Sandy's mind, she got a promotion and this time she remembered her deadlines. Because she realized her value, she was able to accept value into her world. What beliefs do you choose to change so you can claim a better life?
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