Cleanse Your Mind Of Resentment
Mark was a simmering pool of resentment. Anything said to him he perceived as a slight. He felt that the whole world was given advantages denied to him, and that he couldn't get ahead. No one wanted to be around his negativity, so his belief was a self-fulfilling prophecy affecting his personal and professional life.
Anger generally signals that some value or boundary has been violated and occurs during a single event. If anger prompts positive action or a decision to change, it can actually be beneficial. It can motivate you to stop smoking, eliminate a negative friend, or work for social change.
However, if there isn't a resolution, release or plan to address the cause, then anger can curdle into the toxic emotion of resentment. When you hold a grudge or want revenge, resentment has gotten hold of you. It poisons your whole perspective and continually restresses you. This destructive emotion can become a habit and cause you to view yourself as a victim.
There are different types of resentment.
You may hang onto resentment because you feel it protects you. It reminds you not to trust the person who hurt you or go back to the company that treated you unjustly. But you can learn that lesson, and avoid falling into that trap again, without it costing you.
There are definite consequences to holding onto grievances. Mark experienced all of these.
In doing so, you don't condone the offense, like the person or persons, or have them in your life anymore. It doesn't erase what was done, it just frees you to move forward from it.
The opposite of hate or resentment isn't love or approval. The solution to resentment is apathy. You don't have to pardon the offense, just put it in the past. When you cease resenting others, you don't care what they do or think. You've successfully detached yourself from them and the situation. It no longer affects you in any way. You've freed yourself and taken back your power. And this opens the way for success and a happy life.
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As a speaker, personal and professional development coach, and hypnotherapist, Linda-Ann Stewart helps business and professional women who feel stuck, immobilized and overwhelmed to focus, prioritize and break through so they build more business and create a consistent income. Sign up for her FREE guide, "Take Control of Your Day," at www.Linda-AnnStewart.com/guide-takecontrol.html.You can contact her at LAS@Linda-AnnStewart.com or 928-600-0452.
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